Post by queensgirl on Mar 27, 2006 9:43:32 GMT -5
An important scene early on is when Sam visits David’s apartment. He tells his rival that he has already proposed to Maddie and he doesn’t know why she is having such a problem choosing between them.
That in itself is straightforward and I can understand why he’s thinking about that. What I don’t so much understand, is why the man goes ahead and invites the other man to also confront the woman with his feelings.
“If you care about her, she should know that. And if you don’t care about her, well, she should know that too.”
Huh? ‘I said I want to marry her, I’m ticked off and I don’t really like you, but go ahead and talk to her one more time’? What?
If Sam is really intent on being with Maddie, why doesn’t he say something like, “This is none of your business, so stay out”?
I can think of a few reasons why this might be, but they’re all confusing.
1) He wants Maddie to be able to make the decision, so that if they do prepare to get married, there won’t be any skeletons in her closet. But if Sam is sure of his own love, to the point where he is ready to marry her, I don’t know why he didn’t talk to her about it more. I know he had just sent her to bed before he left the house, but maybe that was an unwise decision, and he should have put the time toward letting her know what was on his mind. Marriage is more than just a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ question. This is a very delicate situation; each man has to be careful not to upset her to the point where she’ll decide she doesn’t want to be with either of them. Yet this might be the one issue in life where you really do have to push for a clear choice.
2) He has seen that David is confrontational and does not easily back down. Sam wants to avoid a direct fight between them by ‘heading him off at the pass,’ with words. (This will not succeed, as we see later in the episode.) David just will not go away, no matter how many times Sam intervenes, and this is Crawford’s last-ditch attempt to get the situation out of Neutral.
3) Sam himself is not so sure of Maddie’s enthusiasm for the proposal (vide the business over the phone call) and is trying to push David to be the one to find out what she really wants.
4) Much like when he goaded David into drinking too much at the restaurant, Sam may be trying to provoke David into making a fool out of himself again. Sam thinks of David as his inferior and maybe figures if David has to be the one to talk to her next, the differences between them will be thrown into clearer light. He thinks Maddie would have to choose him then.
I just thought it was pretty odd for a man who said he wanted to marry a woman, to approach the possible other love interest of that woman, and tell him not only that he proposed to her, but the other guy should still talk to her too. If he is trying to, pardon the expression, warn the other man off his turf, why does he start out doing just that, but end up telling him to add his own declaration to the mess? Isn’t that just asking for trouble?
That in itself is straightforward and I can understand why he’s thinking about that. What I don’t so much understand, is why the man goes ahead and invites the other man to also confront the woman with his feelings.
“If you care about her, she should know that. And if you don’t care about her, well, she should know that too.”
Huh? ‘I said I want to marry her, I’m ticked off and I don’t really like you, but go ahead and talk to her one more time’? What?
If Sam is really intent on being with Maddie, why doesn’t he say something like, “This is none of your business, so stay out”?
I can think of a few reasons why this might be, but they’re all confusing.
1) He wants Maddie to be able to make the decision, so that if they do prepare to get married, there won’t be any skeletons in her closet. But if Sam is sure of his own love, to the point where he is ready to marry her, I don’t know why he didn’t talk to her about it more. I know he had just sent her to bed before he left the house, but maybe that was an unwise decision, and he should have put the time toward letting her know what was on his mind. Marriage is more than just a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ question. This is a very delicate situation; each man has to be careful not to upset her to the point where she’ll decide she doesn’t want to be with either of them. Yet this might be the one issue in life where you really do have to push for a clear choice.
2) He has seen that David is confrontational and does not easily back down. Sam wants to avoid a direct fight between them by ‘heading him off at the pass,’ with words. (This will not succeed, as we see later in the episode.) David just will not go away, no matter how many times Sam intervenes, and this is Crawford’s last-ditch attempt to get the situation out of Neutral.
3) Sam himself is not so sure of Maddie’s enthusiasm for the proposal (vide the business over the phone call) and is trying to push David to be the one to find out what she really wants.
4) Much like when he goaded David into drinking too much at the restaurant, Sam may be trying to provoke David into making a fool out of himself again. Sam thinks of David as his inferior and maybe figures if David has to be the one to talk to her next, the differences between them will be thrown into clearer light. He thinks Maddie would have to choose him then.
I just thought it was pretty odd for a man who said he wanted to marry a woman, to approach the possible other love interest of that woman, and tell him not only that he proposed to her, but the other guy should still talk to her too. If he is trying to, pardon the expression, warn the other man off his turf, why does he start out doing just that, but end up telling him to add his own declaration to the mess? Isn’t that just asking for trouble?